The past couple of days, I have spent hour after hour watching a jdrama (Japanese drama) called Densha Otoko. The two main characters, Yamada (the guy), and Saori (the girl) were polar opposites in terms of personality at the beginning of the series: Yamada at age 23 still lived with his parents, had a job where he was not respected at all (and couldn't really do competently), and worst of all, he spent hundreds of dollars a week at Akihabara, buying DVDs, figurines from anime series, and with his friends, going to interviews of voice actors for anime, taking fetish pictures. The girl on the other hand, was very beautiful, exceedingly rich, and above all, very nice. They met on a train, both commuting back to their respective houses, because Yamada decided to stand up to a drunk man who was harassing her. He gets her number from a thank you package she sends him, and so they start meeting on a regular basis. Yamada, being oblivious as he was to emotions, and how to conduct himself around women, started writing on a single men's forum for advice. It seemed as though everybody was against Yamada, and Saori herself left him twice (though they were never officially going out). Additionally, two men were both trying to sabotage Yamada in the hopes of marrying Saori. The only people on his side were those who he had never met: those on the forum. Although I cannot convey these powerful emotions which Yamada went through in the roller coaster of feelings, the basic message I'm trying to convey is that for me watching this series, hope was rediscovered.
So how does this relate to my life?
The purpose of going to a school like Punahou is obvious. Although many of us are very involved with sports, clubs, and various other extracurricular activities, through the maelstrom of paths which we can take, the most evident purpose of going to Punahou is to get into a good college. Many times, I feel very discouraged by a bad grade, which somewhat ironically, worrying about that grade subsequently makes my other grades drop, as well as my overall confidence. Many times, during the course of the school year, I forget what hope is. When I study for a test as well as I possibly can, and still don't get the grade I wanted, why would I have any hope?
I guess what I've pulled out of Densha Otoko in regard to hope are three things:
1. When seemingly everybody else around you can do something correctly, whether it be on a test that I did poorly on, or a sport, the fact of the matter is that that person probably struggled as much as you did right now to get to where they are. At the end of the series, Densha Otoko was a much changed person, who when once carried himself with insecurity, carried himself with poise and confidence. Nothing is impossible, especially when you have many advocates, in Yamada's case, faceless advocates, but the best asset anyone could ever ask for.
2. If you really love something, there should be no doubt in your mind stopping you from trying at that subject, or in Yamada's case, trying to be with a person. After Saori had left Yamada the second time, for she discovered the forum and thought that he was invading her privacy (whereas he was really just trying to get advice because he cared about her so much), he left a message on her cell phone, telling her that he wanted to give her a birthday present. Since Saori had not invited Yamada to her party, he waited at a different spot, during a thunderstorm, for hours. She accidentally found where he was, and since it took so much strength to stand for hours on end in the rain, he collapsed when she came (and subsequently crushed the expensive present he bought her). In my opinion, this was quite a daunting feat to pull off. When I'm figuratively in the rain, after doing poorly on a test, it takes an even greater strength to stand than normally, for it is not certain that this undying behavior will be rewarded. However, if it pays off, all that time was worthwhile.
3. What you do, no matter how small it is, could be an inspiration to others. In the series, Yamada after being rejected the second time, left the forum. All of the regulars on the forum banded together to post fliers around Akihabara asking Yamada to come back to the forum. Yamada's story was such an inspiration to others, and they all wanted him to succeed so much, that after awhile, all of Akihabara was plastered in fliers. Even when watching an interview, his favorite voice actress says that she would have given up voice acting had it not been for Yamada. If Yamada at any time had given up, all he would have justified to those on the single's forum, and the rest of the world, is that no matter how hard you try, sometimes, things are truly impossible. Yamada's standing up in the face of adversity made me hope again.
Hope bands people together, and that lasts forever. Though we may take different paths in life, nobody can take away the great times, and the adversities we got through together. In two years, we will have to leave the community which has supported us for so many years, but the memories we have together can never be compromised. After Yamada got together with Saori, he had to say goodbye to the forum, as did the faceless advocates had to say goodbye to each other, crying all the way. Although they may never speak again, the memories which they share, and the message which they saw firsthand can never be taken away from them.